Don’t hang around losers because they can have negative consequences for your well-being and overall happiness.
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?”
2 Corinthians 6:14
Sorry, I have to use the word losers, but coddling only makes things worse. I bit my tongue and held back far too many times and now I resent myself for handling grown men with kid gloves. A loser is simply someone who didn’t win at life.
You can refer to them as toxic people, under-achievers, or negative individuals. It’s all the same.
They didn’t try to achieve anything and therefore didn’t. I now recognize that I have known and befriended one too many grown men like this so now I’m warning you not to make my mistakes.
They Impact Your Mindset
“Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners.”
1 Corinthians 15:33
The people we surround ourselves with can significantly affect our mindset and attitude. Spending time with individuals who constantly complain, engage in self-destructive behavior, or discourage your ambitions can lead to a negative outlook on life.
*Don’t associate with individuals who have a negative impact on our morals, values, and character can lead us astray from God’s intended path for our lives.
They Lack Motivation and Progress
“He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.”
Proverbs 13:20
Being around individuals who lack motivation or have a pattern of making poor decisions may hinder your own personal growth. They haven’t achieved anything in life and they don’t want you to be great. I have known too many high school dropouts in our community personally. Seems some black men don’t prioritize education.
*Surround yourself with people who inspire, challenge, and support you and can encourage you to strive for success and achieve your goals.
Emotional Well-Being
“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
Romans 12:2
Negative individuals often carry a pessimistic or toxic energy that can drain your emotional well-being. It’s essential to prioritize your mental health and surround yourself with positive influences that uplift and support you.
Their behavior may undermine your self-esteem, manipulate your emotions, or create a toxic dynamic that erodes your sense of self-worth and personal boundaries.
*Let’s protect our hearts from being influenced by worldly and negative patterns.
Reputation and Associations
The company we keep can reflect on our own reputation and social associations. If you consistently spend time with individuals who engage in negative or destructive behavior, other people might not be able to perceive you differently. Bad associations can hinder your personal and professional relationships.
*We must surround ourselves with wise individuals who can positively impact our lives.
Conclusion
It’s not about categorizing all black men as toxic, but rather identifying and avoiding individuals who exhibit toxic behaviors, regardless of their gender. It’s essential to prioritize your well-being, set boundaries, and surround yourself with positive influences that contribute to your growth and happiness. That’s all I’m saying.
