If an attractive woman is single, it’s because she’s smarter than everyone else. I agree from a personal perspective and totally relate. I know what’s out there, I know what I’m worth, and I know that my peace and happiness matter more than anything.
“Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”
1 Corinthians 7:1-2
I was watching a video on Carl Jung and his quotes and this one stuck out to me. I had to talk about it. I struggle in the dating world and this is most likely why. I KNOW dating and relationships are not what they seem. I can say so much about marriage. I don’t feel pressured into getting married or starting a family because society says so. There are other alternatives that provide the same levels of satisfaction and I’ve discovered some really good options.
Easily Fooled
I can be fooled, but I can’t be easily fooled. What am I really getting?
Dating is mostly a waste of time because people are too focused on trying to get what they want as opposed to what they need. Some people just want to go out, some just want to eat, and others just want a casual encounter.
If you’re a woman with your own money, go out with your girls or family members. The man may make you end up paying, but at least if you go out with people of your choosing, you know in advance you’re paying and agree to do so before going out. A better case scenario is that you’re out with your friends and a stranger covers your bill. This happens a lot. You may be missing out on good potential partners because you’re out on a date with a cheapskate who is wasting your time and has no business in your company.
Do men ask you on dates and inform you that you should pay for yourself in advance? Hardly ever. They know you would rather opt out than pay so they surprise you halfway during the meal or when the check comes. You can ask beforehand but there’s no way to really know the outcome when it comes to dating a black man. I can talk about how this type of behavior is to demean and belittle women, but that’s another topic for another day. They’re very bitter and entitled. I would say that they’re undateable if I’m being honest.
Of course, you can do some vetting and find some diamonds, but they seem to be toxic to any and everybody. I’ve watched their behavior with white women and even gay black men say they won’t date black men, Why should you?
I Can Do Bad By Myself
Why would I choose someone who is struggling? If someone has a job, as opposed to a career, they are probably struggling. They may or may not have a vehicle. They may or may not have a place.
What have I routinely encountered? Black men struggle badly. They struggle in their 20s, 30s, and beyond. I can’t speak for other ethnicities but black men don’t do well in life when it comes to success and building a life for themselves. They love to date, or at least chase after women, but ultimately they have nothing to offer in a relationship.
They don’t take care of business and end up falling behind. They don’t educate themselves and gain the skills and experience necessary for good careers early on in their lives. Due to this, they end up in low-paying dead-end jobs. The men who did gain education end up employing them and making them part of the labor force.
They don’t invest their money. They can barely rub two nickels together at any given point in life, so they struggle to even have a nest egg. They don’t buy property because they can’t afford it and end up living in various lowly living states including with parents, with friends or several roommates, in bad parts of town, or in their car.
They don’t own new model reliable vehicles. They tend to purchase the cheapest cars available via auctions or from other people. Their credit is usually shot and their wages are usually too low to acquire a nice vehicle. If they drive a luxury vehicle, the gas tank is usually empty and they probably live in it. I remember an episode of “Living Single” where Max dated a man living in his luxury vehicle. LOL SMH. He was great otherwise.
I personally tell men I encounter in these situations that they shouldn’t even be dating. They’re polluting the dating pool and making desirable men look bad. They’re in the way of the good men and wasting space. Do they listen? Of course not. They’re men. You can’t tell them anything. So what do they do? They populate dating apps and waste women’s time.
They can’t afford real dates and are not really seeking long-term commitments and/or marriage. They’re lusting over and trying to conquer women in large numbers. A man told me men only want sex. He was slow but I thought about this statement and it changed my whole outlook on the average man. My response was why not just hire prostitutes? It makes sense on both sides, but men don’t want to make sense. They want to go after that which they are not entitled to and take it, rather than earn it.
True Crime
It’s no coincidence that true crime stories are increasing in popularity, as well as the prevalence of television programs and documentaries that explore real-life criminal cases. True crime television has gained significant attention and viewership in recent years. I was addicted to it years ago when it first appeared on the scene. These days, I pick and choose what I watch. Too many of these criminals and crimes are popping up and copycatting crimes previously committed.
Why are Americans obsessed with true crime? We are drawn to true crime stories to instinctively discover the who, what, when, and where of what makes a criminal tick to better protect ourselves. Some of these crimes are becoming too familiar. They’re being committed by first dates and men on social media. You HAVE to think twice about going out with someone these days. Is a dinner worth being abducted and tortured or killed?
